Reflection on 2012

We're coming to the end of the year and I wanted to reflect a little here.  What a year it has been for us. It started out rough and somewhere in the middle things seemed to even out until November. Right off the bat we started out the new year with Garrett having an appendectomy and of course there were some financial issues that came with it.  Then in February we found a new doctor for Kevin and I'd say it was in the nick of time, too.  I really do like this new doctor Kevin has. We've been able to take him off of most of the medication that his old doctor had him on, but the one thing I really like is he actually takes the time to look at Kevin while we are talking. Not me, but Kevin. I mean come on who's the patient here anyway.  In March Kevin and his classmates attended their 1st Special Needs Prom.  He had so much fun that day. I'm hoping to get him a suit he can wear next year.  One year Gluten Free in May.  In June he went back for a follow up with his Psychiatrist and surprised his doctor by looking up at him and saying "Hello Doctor."  The big plus during this month was we took him off of Prozac!  Now July was a big month for us, because we went on our first vacation in seven years. Yes, it had been seven years since I'd taken my boys on a trip.  We had the best time visiting my sister in Florida and hanging out at the beach.  Kevin really loved the water so much that I'd be afraid to live on the beach.  Now at the end of July I bit the bullet so to speak.  I put Kevin on the Casein Free diet.  At first I wasn't sure if it would make a difference, but oh yes it has.  He seems a lot more focused since starting this diet.  The Gluten Free diet is a huge help with his agitation, but he still wasn't really focused with the world around him.  Trust me he isn't cured, but just having him a little more focus is a blessing.

That was the first half of the year.  After July things kind of settled down. The boys went back to school in August and Garrett got his driving permit.  September seemed to be uneventful. Thank goodness if you ask me. In October it seemed like I was hearing more words out of Kevin and I'd decided to keep him on the casein free diet.  The best part was I had noticed he was able to focus on playing games on his brother's Nintendo DS.  This helped him to start using his fingers again. The poor guy had his fingers so curled up in such a tight fist for so long that he basically forgot how to open them. There were days when I'd remind him to open his hands and let the air to them.  Things were looking up. Kevin had gone for his first time to visit his father and step-mother all by himself. Yap, no Garrett just Kevin getting his Dad's fullest attention. Looking back on this I'm so glad he was able to visit his Dad by himself, because November rolled around and his Dad passed away unexpectedly.  I'm still not sure what happened, but I was told it may have been a blood clot.  We took a relaxing moment at my sisters house here to enjoy Thanksgiving.  I knew we had a lot to be thankful for, but it was hard to stay focused on it.  The 1st of December their Grandmother in Florida passed away from lung cancer.  We started out the month pretty depressed, but Garrett and I were determined to have a Happy Holiday no matter what.  We went out as a family and picked out the Christmas Tree.  After I put on the lights the tree the boys decorated it together.  I think it's one our best looking trees ever.  We spent Christmas day at home with their Grandmother that lives here and stuffed ourselves.  Gram and I decided since there was only the four of us we were having Prime Rib.  Yap, Prime Rib. Something that neither ones of us has ever cooked before.  Well, thankfully Gram had talked to my brother in Florida and he told her it was easy.  It was!  Wish we could afford to do that more often.  Now I have to confess the cake I made for Christmas was a big flop. It was like cutting rubber and I was so upset that I had no dessert for the kids.  No idea what happened, but I decided to make cupcakes right then and there. One problem I soon realized was I had no icing. I sat there thinking about it for awhile and thought well heck what did they do years ago.  They made it from scratch.  I got my Grandmother's 70 year old cookbook out and found a Marshmallow icing recipe.  This is the funniest part.  My mother was helping me and while she was scoping the marshmallow into the egg white that I was beating somehow the spatula got caught up in the hand held mixer.  It flipped right out of my hand and landed on the floor beating away.   We're both standing there looking at this thing spinning away on the floor like idiots. Icing was everywhere.  My mother says turn the thing off. I said I can't because my hands were covered in icing.  She reached over and yanked the cord out of the socket.  What a mess.  Marshmallow icing is the stickiest icing in the world if you ask me.  Well, there is some good here.  Are you done laughing yet. There was just enough icing left in the bowl to icing the cupcakes, so we had dessert after all. 

We have a new year coming around the corner and here's to hoping and praying that next year is the best ever for yours and mine.

Tree Time

We have our Christmas up, but that's all we've gotten done as far as decorating goes. Hopefully this weekend we can get the lights up outside and finish the inside of the house. We all went last weekend and picked out our Christmas tree. I think Kevin picked out about 6 trees in all. He was too excited about finally getting that Christmas tree up. Yeah, he knows that Santa puts the presents under the tree. I put the lights on and the boys did the rest. For the first time I am using Kevin's brothers name here, because of Garrett's age I feel safe using his name now.

Oh, here's something really cool about Garrett. He's getting his wings today in JROTC.  He flew solo in the flight simulator the other day with success.  I am so proud of both of my boys.  I know I've said it before, but I'm one lucky Mom!

Kevin

Kevin and Garrett

They work so well together

Kevin's brother Garrett

Happy December Everyone

Day after Christmas 2 years ago

It's the holiday season and Kevin couldn't be happier.  We got his Christmas movies out and he's already watched them several times. LOL I think from Halloween to New Years is his favorite time of year.  Yesterday his brother asked him what he wanted for Christmas; Kevin's answer was so simple. "Presents"  Next his brother said yes, but what do you want in those presents.  Kevin said Wolves, Batman and Godzilla.  Hmmm. He has every Godzilla movie ever made as far as I know and I'm not sure they are making Godzilla toys anymore.  Might need to check Amazon for that one.  Wolves are easy.  Not the real thing. He likes those plastic animals.  You'd be amazed how many of those I've donated to Goodwill.  I always keep his favorites though.

Hopefully this weekend we can get a Christmas tree. I was going to hold off, but the longer I wait the more those trees will sit around only to dry out more.  That just reminded me.  A few years ago I had one of those per-lite Christmas trees. I got it all together only to find that the middle section wouldn't light anymore.  I tried to find the problem, but there was no hope. I stood there with my hands on my hips saying "now what" to myself.  I didn't realize I'd said it out load until Kevin said here you go and handed me a string of lights that were in a box.  Problem solved!  I added those lights and we were set to decorate.  Sometimes we get so wrapped up in problems and it's hard to see the simplest answer.  That's why I have Kevin.  He will make you look at life completely different that's for sure.

The Passing of a Father

Keith and his two boys

November is coming to a close and I couldn't let it close without honoring my former husband.  The boys father, Keith, passed away on November the 11th unexpectedly. Instead of dwelling on his death I have chosen to embrace his life.

While we were married we often went out to dinner and neither one of us wanted to just decide for Kevin what he would eat. We wanted him to make the choice, but the problem was Kevin wouldn't use his voice. It was Keith that came up with the idea of having Kevin slap a hand when we needed him to make a choice for dinner.  That eventually got us to the point that he would slap the hand and whisper his choice.  It was also Keith that had the idea to help Kevin with his fear of people dressed in costumes such as Micky Mouse.  We discovered this fear when we took the boys to Disney in Florida one year.  That was most likely our worst vacation ever.  We could only conclude that for Kevin it was just the thought of his stuffed animals coming to life. Well, one weekend after our divorce Keith had the boys for a visit and they had gone to a car show. Now, I have to tell you this didn't turn out like Keith had hoped, but his heart was in the right place. There was someone there dress in a Big Daddy Rat costume, so Kevin's father took him over to talk to the 6 foot rat.  He wanted him to understand that there was a person in the costume, but unfortunately it didn't work.  Over time we've been able to help Kevin with this fear, but most of the time we avoid any place that has someone dressed like this.  Don't get me wrong here. Kevin loves Halloween and understands that those are people in those costumes.  Keith loved his boys and enjoyed having them visit him as often as he could.

I had the hardest time trying to decide if I should tell Kevin about his father's death or not, but in the end I did tell him.  Kevin knows words like dead, but I don't know if he understands the meaning of the word.  Sometimes he's watching a movie and when someone dies in it I hear him say he's dead. In the end I told him because #1 it wouldn't have been fair to Kevin and #2 there were so many people around him talking about it. Kevin hears everything that is said in front of him and I didn't want him to find out about his father that way. So, in the end I told him his father got sick and died. Maybe I shouldn't have used the word sick, but it's too late to take that back. I also explained that my brother, his brother and myself would be there for him. His answer was very simple. "Okay." I had talked to one of my bosses about this and he told me that maybe that's all Kevin needed to know.  I think he's right. Thanks Tom for lending an ear.

Yes, our marriage was over, but our friendship stayed. You might think it may surprise my sisters and brothers to know that Keith often asked about everyone and wanted to know what they were up to, but in truth they all knew him so well that it wouldn't have surprise any of them. Keith will be missed greatly by not just myself and our two boys, but also by his wife whom he adored, his four step children, his mother in Florida, a sister in Florida, plus a sister and brother both in Ohio.

Keith with his wife Karen, our boys and two of his step children

The Thanksgiving Feast

The Holidays have begun to stay the least.  Yesterday we went to my sister's house for Thanksgiving.  What a pleasant day it was. The weather was beautiful. The little ones were able to go out and play in the pile of leaves.  Kevin had a great time playing with his younger cousin.  I looked over once and they were playing hide and seek in the living room. Another time they were both watching TV together and later I found them both in the living room playing with their gaming devices.  It was a huge difference from last year when Kevin's medication stop working for him on that very day.  But I'm not going backwards in time here.  We had our feast and sat around stuffed all afternoon until it was time to eat all over again that evening.  The night before I was in a panic, because my dinner rolls did not come out at all.  I made them several weeks ago without any problems, but for some reason both batches just shrunk right up on me.  Thankfully the ladies with my GFCF Recipe group came to the rescue. I emailed the group asking for help and one of the girls posted what she usually makes.  I am so thankful to her.  We had dinner rolls after all! I know most of you are thinking so what if he doesn't have dinner rolls. Well, I cared about whether or not he had them like the rest of us at the table. I try to make sure he has something equivalent to what everyone else is having. He does notice what everyone else is eating believe it or not. Thankfully it was a none issue anyway. All in all it turned out to be one of the most relaxing Thanksgivings ever.

Big Brother, Little Brother

My how they have been changing on me.  Yesterday Kevin was voicing his opinion whether it was good or not.  I heard him say stupid dog once and thought I heard him say stupid Mommy.  I asked him if he said stupid Mommy and he said said yes.  I explained that that wasn't a very nice thing to say and he said Sorry Mommy.  Later after dinner he was bringing me his dinner plate into the kitchen and when he turned to leave his brother was standing in the way.  Kevin said his brother's name and move out of the way.  Now that would have caused a fight a few years ago with little ole me breaking the fight up. I'm only 5'5" and they're both either 6' or almost.  Neither one of these young men likes to be bossed by the other. Instead his brother calmly explained that wasn't how you asked someone to move and told him how to say it the right way.  I told Kevin to say he was sorry to his brother.  He did with a big hug.  His brother was trying hard not to start laughing, because he was still explaining how the ask someone to move. I was very proud of both of them for the way they handled the whole situation.  Oh yes Kevin is using more and more words lately.  That morning he and I went to visit with my sister and her husband at their antique booth.  His brother was off doing something for the Vet's uptown with JROTC.  My brother-in-law introduced us to a friend of his.  Kevin reached right out and shook the man"s hand saying "Nice to meet you" very clearly.  Just before leaving he was running around calling his Uncle's name, because he wanted to say bye to him.  They have a very special way of stay bye to each other and have been doing it for years.

Kevin getting a kick out of his brother driving

Ice Skating Practice

Today is the start of the Special Olympics Ice Skating Practice for our schools and Kevin was so happy about it this morning.  I'm hoping I can go check it out one day during practice or even the event itself.  I have never ice skated in my life.  When I was about 3 years old I remember my two older sisters wearing these dual skates that strapped on to their winter boots.  I thought that was the cools thing in the world until the one boy in our complex showed up on single blades.   I have no idea if Kevin uses a walker, dual blades or what.  It really doesn't matter, but it'd fun to watch him ice skate.  He seems to light up when you mention skating of any kind to him.

So how's he doing with his diet you ask. Wonderful! The other day I asked him to bring me his plate into the kitchen.  He hopped right up and said "Here you go Mommy."  Happy dance!!  Another new sentence!  It seems like the longer he stays on the diet the better he gets.  We had a few weeks that weren't so good a while back and after talking to his doctor we decided to try a little high dosage of his medication with the Fanapt.  Well, after a week and half into the new dosage I knew it was too much for him.  His doctor was out at the time on maternity leave.  His wife had a baby boy, so I discussed it with the nurse.  Back down we went and I added a 1/2 Ativan in the afternoon for about 2 weeks instead.  I have him back off of that and back to his original dosage.  He seems to be back to how he was at the start of school.  No idea why he was having issues a while back and I'm just happy he's back to he's original dosage.



 

Happy All Saints Day

Halloween has come and gone sad to say.  Kevin loves this time of year.  Yesterday was a big day at school for him. They had a Fall Party during class.  I was lucky and found candy bars for him at the Health Food Store and sent them in to his teacher for Kevin's treat. I also made cupcakes using Betty Crocker's Gluten Free Cake Mix for him.  I knew one parent was sending in cupcakes, so I wanted to make sure Kevin didn't feel left out.  The best part of the day was watching his brother make our Jack-o-lantern.  Kevin was right in there watching every detail.

All of you will have to check out my new blog Aunt B's Kitchen & Garden at http://auntbskitchenandgarden.blogspot.com/.  I should be posting my new recipe for Blueberry Cinnamon Muffins soon.  Kevin can't wait for Turkey Day. In his own words Gobble Gobble!

Special Olympics Skating 2012

Even with a bite of a rough start this morning Kevin pulled off a gold medal for the 30 meter straight line skating event.  He's not the fastest skater, but he loves it!  As for this morning we'd had been working with his medication dosages, and if you remember I mentioned he was having issues a few weeks ago.  Well the new dosage after a week and half of trying turned out to be not such a great idea. His teacher called me and said he was roaring and throwing his arms in the air. Fortunately I was on the road that the school is on and pulled right into the parking lot.  Sure enough I could hear him as I headed for the office to sign in.  As soon as I sat down next to him he seemed to snap out of it, but to be safe I gave him half an Ativan.  We waited a few minutes to make sure he was fine and off he went to skating with the rest of the class.  After school he was his old self. Even pulled out the paper that he wrote at the end of day saying what he did in school today and started reading it to me. Going back to the old dosage and we'll just see how he does.

He asked for Help

I know it's been awhile since my last post, but truthfully not a lot has been going on.  Kevin has been doing wonderful in school.  His teachers have been telling me he's starting to participate in class again.  In the afternoon he seems to be going down hill a little and it may mean adjusting his medication in the afternoon.  I'll wait and see what the doctor thinks before I say more about that.  Last night was a first for Kevin. In his own way he asked for help with opening a bottle of water.  He was watching me get his medication out last night and I told him he'll need a drink. He got a bottle of water out of the refrigerator and said "Need help, here."  I'm never sure if I should jump up and down cheering when he does these things.  LOL I don't want to make him self conscious after all.  I'm sure that's one of the many reasons why he whispers at times.  But, last night was no whisper.  I said ok, opened the bottle for him and he said "Thank You."  I do try to teach my children manners after all.  So, small steps can lead to big progress if you give it time. Am I sticking with the casein free diet along with the gluten free diet? YES!  Maybe a few years down the road I might try a little cheese, but not anytime soon. Not with the positive feed back I get from his teachers.    

Back in School!

Yesterday was the 1st day of school and boy what a day it was.  Kevin had a wonderful day and was rather surprised to see his brother there, too.  So far I'm having Kevin ride the bus in the mornings just to give him some independence and then picking him up when I have to pick up his brother.  His younger brother doesn't have a bus, because it's not our home school.  I wanted to have both boys at the same school now that they are both in high school.  Kind of makes sense, but it also makes for a lot of running back and forth.  On most Fridays when I'm at the showroom Kevin's respite worker will drop them off at home to their Grandmother.  Otherwise I'll just have to take off from work to drop them at home to my mother and go back to work.  Traffic at the high school will be too much for my mother to deal with for picking up the boys, so this should work out okay.

This summer Kevin got another surprise. His brother can drive!  Every time his brother gets in the drivers seat Kevin just cracks up laughing.  It doesn't seem to be a nervous laugh, so I think Kevin thinks it's pretty cool having him drive us anywhere.

The last surprise was his respite worker is no longer his teacher. We were very sad about the changes, but the good thing is Kevin already knew is teacher.  She's been one of the teachers at school since he started there and she's also his respite works closest friends.  She knows Kevin and understands he is Gluten and Dairy Free.  She's been very helpful with where I can park (out away from the usual group of parents) to pick up the boys.  Yesterday was funny, because Kevin saw me pull in and he kept saying Mommy, Mommy.  His respite worker was standing out there with them and said to his teacher "You know she's out there don't you?"  His teacher asked which car and walked him over to me.

So, we are looking forward to a new and wonderful year in High School. Oh, don't make me cry thinking about them growing up so fast.  We had a great summer with no real issues other than the medication changes and reduction of medications.  That's a big plus. I don't think we would have been able to pull that one off without being Gluten Free.  As for the Dairy, I want to keep him off it for 6months to 1 year before I reintroduce it to see if it really does make a difference for him.

Casein Free

Well, I've taken the next step with Kevin.  Last week I changed over his butter to Earth Balance Buttery Spread and have found a dairy/gluten free Ranch Dressing for him.  I have a couple of recipes for Ranch Dressing, but I've been so busy I haven't had time to even think about making it. Cheese on pizza is going to be a problem if we get it out somewhere.  I'm not sure if Mello Mushroom has Diaya, which is a dairy free product to replace cheese. I just bought some and I've only tried a small amount on his Penna Pasta the other night, so I'm not sure if he likes it or not.  Of course you don't have to have cheese on a pizza, but that's what everyone is use to ordering.

Today he was doing his vroom vroom noises off and on, which is something he wasn't doing for quite a long time. I'm guessing that it has to do with the withdrawals of the casein and his reaction to it. I had him go out to the hot tub (cooled down of course) for while to relax and he seems to be doing better. I asked him if he wanted a snack. Of course he said yes, but this time I didn't give him any choices to pick from like I usually do. I ask him what he wanted for a snack and he said pretzels. Ha, good thing I have some GF Pretzels. To tell you the truth I love the things myself.

The plan is for him to stay off the dairy for a while and then reintroduce it to see if there is a reaction to the dairy. If there isn't a reaction then maybe I can put dairy back in his diet. This is all about helping Kevin live a better life. All of you probably think I like roller coaster rides. HA! I hate them, but if it helps even a small amount then it's worth it to me.

http://www.daiyafoods.com
Daiya can be found at Health Food Stores.

http://www.earthbalancenatural.com/product/original-buttery-spread/
Most stores carry Earth Balance.

Vacation Finally!!!

Yes, that's right after 7 years of no vacations. Kevin and I have finally gone on a vacation with Kevin's brother & my brother. We've stayed home one too many times and it was time to take the plunge. I worried for weeks before our trip about taking the dog and Kevin's diet. In the end everything turned out fine. We stayed with my sister and her family. She has a travel trailer and we stayed in that in her backyard. Gave Kevin a nice place to chill out and watch movies that's for sure. We were able to get to the beach only 3 times during the week. I'm sure Kevin would have loved to go a lot more. He loved just standing in the water up to his waist.  We even took the dog one day. LOL She wasn't too sure about those little waves, but boy she enjoyed it after she was wet and laying in the shade.

We met up with my other brother and his wife several times. I can't remember the last time I saw them.  And the main reason for going was my Grand-nephews Birthday party! Love you little guy.

As for Kevin's diet. My sister and I went to Walmart the 1st night we got there and did some shopping. Thankfully they had a Gluten Free section, so we didn't have to look all over the store for things. I did hit one of the health food stores one day just to see what they had and found some gluten free casein free ice cream. I tested it out on Kevin's brother and he loved it. Ok, Kevin had some, but he won't really tell me how good it is. It's usually a nod or yes with Kevin.  Just hope I can remember the brand when I look for it in our health food store. Here it is:

http://www.bluemountainorganics.com/cashewcreamery/

Yes, I am going to try the casein free diet on Kevin, too. I'll have to remove it slowly and wait awhile before I reintroduce casein to see if there is a difference.  It takes time to do any of these diets.

Anyway, back to our vacation. My sister was great about checking if anything had gluten. Even at the deli!  Thanks sis!  On our way home we stopped at the boys Grandmother's house in Jacksonville.  She hasn't seen Kevin in years and I think she was amazed at how big he's gotten.  Visiting was wonderful! I haven't seen her myself in maybe 8 years.  She and her daughter were ready with a Gluten Free Pizza for Kevin and regular Pizza for the rest of us.  We had a great lunch and catching up in person was the best.

Improvements

Yes, we have had improvements. I've just been afraid to say anything just, yet. Didn't want to jinx Kevin. lol We had a follow up visit with his Doctor today.  He walked in and said hello to Kevin; Kevin said "Hello Doctor."  I did a double take. I think his doctor was really pleased to see how Kevin has been coming along.  He noticed right away that Kevin wasn't all hunched over with his arms over his head. I told him about the other day we had to go somewhere and while he was in the bathroom I laid his clothes next to him. I had to go check on something (I have no memory anymore) and when I went back to help him I found a surprise. Kevin was dressed, brushed his teeth, put on his deodorant and was brushing his hair. No promoting from me at all.  During shower time he's been very alert lately and hasn't needed any promoting again. It's really nice to know that I can walk away for a second and he'll just keeping on doing what he needs to be doing.

I think most of it is due to the fact that his now fully off Prozac, and down to 1/2 of a pill of the Ativan twice day, along with the Fanapt.  I haven't needed to go up on the Fanapt, which was a concern with taking him off of the Prozac.  The other thing that I need to consider is he has been getting a lot less dairy products, because it's summer vacation.  The casein protein in dairy is a problem for a lot of Autistic people just like Gluten Protein.  It's not something I really want to do, but if it needs to come out to help then it needs to come out.  There are substitutes out there for dairy. I just have to learn and look for them.  BUT! For right now I'm not going to do anything with the dairy.  His doctor said the Prozac should be completely out of his system in about 3 more weeks and I want to give Kevin a chance to have a few moments without any changes. BUT! It will have to be tested before school starts, otherwise it will be hard to tell if any reactions are school or the casein.

Last Prozac Going Going Gone

Today is the first day without Prozac!  Wish us luck people.  If all goes well in a month I want to start removing the Ativan.

A Normal Moment

I had Kevin home the other day, because he’d had a rough night sleeping.  He was awake at 3am and he wasn’t too happy about it either.  Now, you’d think he would take a nap like he usually does on the weekends.  Nope, no nap.  He seemed awake and alert, so I took him to the grocery store.  As I’m walking through the store I look back to see what’s taking him so long.  He’s just walking along with his arms folded looking around like wow so this is the grocery store.  I just shook my head and kind of laughed.  But, boy it was so nice to see that arm down.  Lately he’s been walking around with his one arm up over his head and if you put it down the other one goes up in its place.  We got through the store with no problems and in the self checkout line I notice he’s look at something on the rack pretty intently.  I looked over to see what he was looking at and it was a tabloid with pictures of actresses in their bathing suits.  I started laughing so hard.   If anyone had been around they would have thought I was nuts, but it was just such a normal thing for a young man his age to do.  Well, maybe someone else’s son would be more discreet.   He does have his moments.

It’s been a Year

I have thought and thought about what to say today.  It’s been a year since having Kevin change to the gluten free diet.  We have had our ups and our downs.  It’s been a huge learning experience for me and the outer reaches of my family.  Yesterday we went to my sister’s house for Mother’s Day.  I do believe that is the first holiday event in a very long time that I was able to really relax at.  Kevin was so wonderful all day long.   My sister fixed a Gluten Free Brunch, so I didn’t have to worry about what Kevin could eat and what he couldn’t eat.  Thanks Sis!  That meant a lot to me.

It’s been a rough year for us, but I truly believe it was worth it.  Will I continue this diet with Kevin? Yes!  My goal was to help him with his agitation issues he has every summer.  It worked.  I didn’t have to call his doctor once during the whole summer for help.  I have never felt that Kevin would be cured of autism with this diet, but there have been improvements.  If I had started this diet when he was much younger then maybe things may have been different for him, but I don’t sit around thinking about what might have been.  What’s in the past is in the past.  I always worry about today and all the tomorrows to come.

Special Olympics 2012

What a difference a year can make!  I was waiting for Kevin’s bus this afternoon and thinking about how he was last year at this time.  Today they had the Opening Ceremonies for the Special Olympics in our area and when he got off the bus today I was so thrilled to see how happy he was.  Last year I didn’t even send him to school for the Opening Ceremonies.  They have the ceremonies in an enclosed arena and it can be very loud at times.  His teacher and I both felt that it would have been too much for him, so I just kept him home that day.    Plus, I didn’t want her to have to try to locate me if I had to go and try to pick him up at the arena.  I remember I had to go to the swimming event, because his she ended up sick that day.  Poor guy could hardly function and this year he’s so much happier and more important alert.   I think he’s having fun.